I'm writing this book to encourage people to plan ahead, no matter what your stage in life.
Often, we're so caught up in the moment and overwhelmed with life as it happens that we can't think about—or prepare for—the things that will be most important in the future. If a person is in a rocky marriage that they know is headed downhill, they need to be planning ahead for the possibility of divorce. They need to stop doing what most people do, which is just waiting until they get served with divorce papers and then finding themselves completely overwhelmed with no plan or preparation in place. Like the old story of the frog in boiling water, they don’t feel things getting hotter and hotter. I know many people are in denial and hope things will get better, and sometimes one spouse is completely unaware that the other is having an affair and planning to leave. Sometimes it is the grandparents who find themselves unexpectedly raising their grandchildren.
It never hurts to have some basic understanding of legal concepts of divorce and child custody just in case, if not for you, then for a friend you may be able to help. Life is messy and divorce is complicated.
The same goes for people who do not have a will. Put bluntly, you never know when you're going to die. Everyone tends to think of death as something that will happen sometime way off in the future. Sometimes they’re right, but unfortunately, it doesn’t always work out that way. Recently, I wrote a Will for a man who is 99 years old and never had a will before. He had just decided that maybe he didn’t have too much longer left in this life. But children and healthy young adults die every day. Car accidents happen all the time, as do heart attacks. Neither are usually planned for, and both often catch people completely unprepared. Young healthy people get killed in accidents, and COVID-19 has taken millions of people in the last two years. Sudden death simply highlights the fact that there is so much we cannot know about when and where our lives will end. Death is not merely for the elderly. Death comes to people regardless of their intelligence, health, age, race, gender, or economic status.
The only thing you do know is that death will happen to all of us eventually and that it makes a big difference to the people you leave behind if you have planned ahead. A big difference. Young people, old people, single people, married people, divorced people, rich people, poor people … everyone needs this book.